Couples Therapy in Bergen County, NJ

Has the fire burned out?

You're in love, but if we're being honest you don't really like your partner lately. You're not seeing eye to eye. What you used to find endearing now grates on your nerves. You can't communicate without arguing. One of you always ends up sleeping on the couch.

You find yourself thinking of your relationship in the following terms:

"The honeymoon phase is over."

"We used to have so much fun."

"They know how I am. Why do they keep pushing my buttons?"

You want to get closer to your partner but you can't stop bickering.

It's time to do some work.

When we're insecure in our relationship, we can feel trapped. And that sense of feeling trapped can lead to feelings of anxiety and overwhelm. You find yourself wanting more time alone, dreaming of getting away.

The truth is, most couples experience conflict. In fact, couples counseling is our second most popular request. You are not alone.

Navigating a partnership requires patience and hard work.

Trying to fix your relationship on your own can be an exercise in futility.

• You read the self-help books.
• You watch the relationship Ted Talks.
• You work on your breathing.
• You give in when you really want to ask for more.

You still feel like roommates. You've learned to settle.